Are you emotionally resilient?
Harvard Professor, Dr. Courtney Warren asserts that if you use any
of these phrases every day, you’re emotionally resilient.
“I can get through this.”
Emotional resilience is associated with grit and mental toughness. You overcome adversity without letting it break them.
“I’m not going to let myself be a victim.”
After you experience the pain of mistreatment (like when my website was cannibalized), I had to shift my perspective from “I’m a victim and powerless to help myself” to “How can I grow from this?”
“Life is Hard.”
Resilience is when you realize life isn’t always fair, and experience emotional setback. You learn to rise above and accept it. You also learn not to take things personal.
“This too shall pass.”
Although setbacks and challenges can feel horrible at the moment, you know that nothing in life is permanent.
“What can I learn from this?”
The ability to shift your perspective from “Why did this happen to me?” to “What can I take from this to help me grow?” can help you better navigate through life’s inevitable ups and downs.
“I need some time.”
A key component of resilience is emotional flexibility, or the ability to regulate your feelings and reduce their intensity in a given situation. Mastery over this can help us feel empowered during challenging times.
“I still have things to be grateful for.”
People who are resilient find a way to turn towards the positive, even in times of difficulty.
“It is what it is.”
The key to resilience is not denying reality or seeking out a reason that makes us feel better about why something happened. When we arrive at a place of radical acceptance, the situation has less power over us.
“I’m letting this go.”
Staying resentful, wanting retribution, or focusing on payback keeps us holding on to the past pain. Developing resilience requires getting to a place where we choose to let them go.
Emotionally resilient people are resilient and focus on what they CAN control at the moment. Do you agree? Which one resonates with you?